Chasing Home

From the introduction

The Chase

There was a moment when I realized I wasn’t just chasing love—I was chasing home.

Not a house. Not a person. Not a destination.
But a feeling. A sense of being seen. Known. Safe. Wanted.

For much of my life, I didn’t know what I was running toward—only that something inside me felt missing, unworthy, and unbearably alone. I searched for it in relationships, in control, in perfection, and even in my work as a counselor. I gave to others what I never received myself, hoping that maybe, if I gave enough, I’d finally feel whole. But the ache remained.

This book is about that ache.

It’s about how the absence of emotional attunement—of being lovingly seen as a child—can shape a lifetime. It’s about the ways we recreate our early wounds in adult relationships, often without knowing we’re doing it. And it’s about what happens when we finally stop looking outside ourselves for the love we never got—and begin to turn inward.

I have walked through the confusion of complex trauma, the terror of not being enough, and the exhausting cycles of needing to be in control. I’ve also sat across from hundreds of clients whose stories mirrored my own: people desperate for connection but trapped in patterns that sabotage it.

We are all, in some way, trying to come home.

In these pages, I share my story, my professional insights, and the sacred truths that helped me begin to heal. This is not a how-to guide. It’s a companion. A reflection. A reminder that the home you’re looking for isn’t out there. It’s in you. It always was.